TUBE TALKING

As a man who loves women, as a feminist, as a man who was sexually abused by his father and stepfather and as a highly sensitive person living with Asperger’s, it sickens me out the whole situation that has come out of Jackie Fuchs’ revelation that Kim Fowley raped her in front of a bunch of people.

Before I keep going I want so say first and foremost that I can’t believe all the focus is going towards Joan Jett as if she is the main character of this story, no one is talking about sexism, no one is talking about how creepy Kim Fowley was, no one is talking about how wrong the whole situation was, about abuse, about rape, no. Everything that seems to matter is that Joan Jett was there, all the anger is going towards her. As if she was not a victim of the whole situation there, too.

Everyone who was underage in that room was a victim, everyone who was there was traumatized and everyone who was there came out with a trauma because of Kim Fowley.

Why do people always have to go accuse the victims? Everyone there was a victim and still is to this day. Apparently, It always has to be a woman’s fault.

After carefully reading every opinion on the matter from the people who were there and after reading every article and book on the matter, I’ve connected every statement and realized that nobody is lying. Sometimes the truth has many perceptions. That perception is influenced by drugs, age, context, state of mind at the moment of the incident, past experiences, feelings toward the other people involved, sex, time, memory and many, many more things.

THIS IS HOW I THINK AND FEEL THINGS HAPPENED THINKING THAT NOBODY IS LYING.

I think it was a normal and boring night, Kim decided to mess Jackie up and to bully her so he made sure she took a bunch of drugs so she just went to a weird state of mind, she was out of it, her mind disassociated from her will and Kim proceeded to mess around with her, things got carried away and he raped her in front of many people there, she didn’t want to have sex with Kim, but her body and drugged mind differed from her thoughts and will. Kim made sure many people were watching, many were underage, all of them felt horrified by the situation, it was a marking point for all of them. They were all victims and perception is a tricky thing, but what some saw was a girl drugged out (like many girls from that time, like they themselves every night) having sex with a creep, some felt she was acting like she was into it (we now know it wasn’t the case in Jackie´s mind) Some were grossed out by the situation, some acted cool because that was their way to cope.
Kim Fowley was an evil genius; he knew how to manipulate things, he knew how to rape a girl without he coming out as a rapist, without anyone else knowing he was raping a girl (Except form the adults in that room)
There were many people in that room, if some would have felt that it was a rape, someone would have said anything. Kim knew better than that.

They were kids, they thought Jackie was into it, based on what they saw, so if she would have said no, or acted like she didn’t want that, maybe they were all would have tell him to stop and make him stop, Jackie´s friends were also there.
After that night everyone in that room distances themselves from Jackie, because they felt uncomfortable with the situation, the were sicken out and traumatized, Jackie’s friends didn’t talked to her ever again (because they felt weird about her) that is also why all the other Runaways had weird feelings towards Jackie, because they didn’t know what to make of her. She was the girl that was so high she wanted to have sex with their creepy manager.

They didn’t see a rape, but they were also traumatized by the whole situation, so their way to cope was to laugh about it, to make fun of the situation, to laugh at Jackie because she had sex with a creep, they were weirded out by that, because that was their way to deal with that. That is why no one spoke about it afterwards; nobody asked or told Jackie anything, because they thought that was her personal issue, because they thought she was ashamed of what she did, like they would be (a walk of shame situation).

Kim Fowley did something to every one in that room that night.

Kim Fowley not only raped Jackie, he made sure it didn’t look like a rape, otherwise he would not have been able to get away with it for 40 years. That night Kim Fowley raped all their minds. There were no bystanders, they were all victims.

CHERIE’S BOOK

Everyone seems to forget Cherie gave a pretty detailed narrative about that night and everything that happened.
She is been telling this story over and over again, because she was traumatized, she was also a victim.
The only thing different in The Huffington Post article is that Joan Jett was there too and the girl was Jackie Fox.
Joan Jett is not denying that this happened, she is saying she wasn´t aware Jackie was being raped. She may also not remember the situation or doesn´t want to disrespect Jackie by saying how she remembers things. Either way, she was a victim too. Jackie as a victim just spoke now.

It seems some people are always willing to find a strong powerful woman and bring her down, to judge her harshly for something that happened 40 years ago. Who is getting more insults? Kim Fowley or Joan Jett ? The victim, always the victim.

I think Cherie was brave telling her story in her book.

THE HUFFINGTON POST ARTICLE

When I started reading the article, I felt good for Jackie, I know how it feels to finally say something like that, as I continued reading I couldn´t understand why was the writer being so sensationalistic about the subject, why so much detail about it? Why name calling the other victims? Why it didn´t include that some thought Jackie wanted what was happening?

As I kept reading I realized this is not all healing, this is not going to bring light on sexual abuse or rape, this is going to condemn Joan Jett. I knew that the second I finished reading the article.

Jackie is always said to be smart, now she says she didn´t expected that, I don´t get why. The piece of article is biased and harsh towards the other victims, calling them bystanders as if they were not kids and were not manipulated.

The story was told many times before; nobody cared, now that Joan Jett has been mention everybody seems to care, that is what is wrong with the article, that it knowingly takes away the possibility to bring light to the main issue.

I get that Jackie resents everybody in that room and part of her healing process is to speak about what happened with everyone there, but to deliberately name call other victims that have not speak up yet, especially if they are so famous as Joan Jett is something brutal to do. I thought for a second that maybe Jackie didn´t want that and the writer of the article manipulated the whole situation, but now I see Jackie reposting every post that accuses Joan Jett or Cherie Currie, and she is leading to making teams out of it. That should never be the case. There are no teams here, separatism is never the way to heal and to deal with rape.

They should all respect each other, their healing process, and their memories of what happened that night and never take down on each other.

I strongly feel the Huffington post´s article mainly focuses on Joan Jett and many don´t see that, but I´m smarter than that.

MY STORY

As I said, my father and then my stepfather sexually abused me, only 2 people know about this. I know how healing it is to tell someone what happened so I really send all my love to Jackie and I feel her pain and I know how traumatic it can be, what happened to her. I just wish her healing and peace (funny thing, Joan said the same I just realized it after writing it, those are the exact feelings to wish to a rape victim)
Jackie was raped and I am really glad she finally told her story.

I told my mom what happened with my stepfather and then I denied it for several reasons, so she believed me and it all continued as if it never happened, my stepfather would do things like touch himself in front of me or going to my room when I was sleeping. I learned to deal with that, to lock my door, to never look. I resented my mother for not noticing it, for not knowing I was telling the truth when I first told her.

But she was also a victim and if someone where to accuse her I would be really mad, she should have know better, yes, but she didn’t and no one is to blame her.
I know how hard is for her to talk about it now, it´s even harder for her than for me.

In Jackie´s case what she calls bystanders were all victims, were all traumatized, some of them didn´t know she was being raped, and that changes the whole deal. I understand the resentment, never the name-calling or the accusations or the team making.

JOAN JETT SAVED MY LIFE

Joan Jett made me a feminist, a stronger person, a happy person. There is no end to how many things Joan Jett has taught me.
Joan Jett is mysterious but she is pure, anyone who has hugged her or looked her in the eyes knows that.
Joan Jett has the soul of a child and the wisdom of a tibetan old monk. It´s all in her songs, al the traumas, all the lack of memory, she is transparent in her songs,  I´m sure she made many mistakes in her life, but what she is being accused of is not one. She didn’t know Jackie was being raped, and she or anyone should never be judged for what they did 40 years ago when they were kids, never. Especially if they were victims too.

I’ve read somewhere that The Huffington Post article has helped more people that any of the other Runaways. That, I know is not true. Joan Jett has saved lives, she surely saved mine, she has also physically saved lives and there are stories about that. Music is healing and is stronger that any sensationalistic article. And Joan Jett is being helping with her music, helping animals, woman issues and kids since she was 15 years old. She is being saving lives for 40 years.

I sent Joan my best wishes, I know she is a strong woman, I also know how sensitive she is and I know it must be hard for her everything that is happening, I wish her the best and I know things will get better, much better.
I´m sticking with you.

“Do you wanna watch me cry, do you wanna make me bleed, do you wanna hear me say, what I don’t really mean, do you want it so real, do you want it so fake, do you want big proof, Is that what you crave, do you want to watch me crack, wanna see me shatter, make me behave
Doesn’t really matter”

 

I encourage everyone to read the following information if they want to have an objective opinion.
¨Neon Angel¨ – Book by Cherie Currie
¨Queens of Noise¨- Book by Evelyn Mcdonnell (In this book many people talk about the incident, including Sandy West)
https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10206257742714426&set=a.1194148345804.2029992.1591314471&type=1&theater
https://populismblog.wordpress.com/2015/07/10/statement-on-the-lost-girls/